My Life’s Transformational Journey began when I joined Arfeen Khans COACH TO FORTUNE Program in October 2019.
A GLIMPSE INTO MY PAST:
One beautiful Highveld afternoon sitting under a cloudless blue sky watching the sun dancing on the waves of the pool as my three young children splashed about in the water. I was contemplating the abuse and humiliation experienced in my marriage. My spirit had died, my emotional and physical energy were depleted, I was running on empty. Considering the circumstances I felt the only way to get out of this miserable life would be to drown myself and my three children! Getting up slowly I started thinking of how I was going to perform the terrible deed. An emotion ignited deep inside of me, my inner voice cried out “What are you doing? “You are valuable and precious and loved by family and friends.”. I knew instinctively it was the love of God and my mother's prayers and love for me, that reminded me who I was. With great resolve and courage, I moved out and divorced my husband. In my mind, I had forgiven him and felt that I could continue with my life. Many years later he visited my daughter. I happened to be in the bedroom upstairs unbeknown to him, as I heard his voice, my body was repelled I felt sick and nauseous and wanted to vomit. I was trembling. Feeling shocked at this powerful physiological reaction to his presence, I tried to work out in my mind if I had truly forgiven him. If I had, why was my physiology reacting like this? What a revelation. I had work to do on myself but did not know-how, or where to begin. I had prayed about forgiving him often, asking God to help me with true forgiveness. Thirty-two years later I joined Coach To Fortune and became a certified Arfeen Khan coach. Working with people is my passion, coaching was a perfect choice. Early March 2020 a group of South African Arfeen Khan certified coaches flew to Mumbai to attend the Arfeen Khan Annual Mega Event. How exciting it was joining one thousand coaches from around the globe. The great Mr. Arfeen Khan conducted a role-play on stage with a young lady who had a similar relationship with her husband as I had, had all those years ago. What a revelation it was for me. Firstly I realized that I had been living in a victim mode for thirty-two years without being aware of it. Secondly, I learned all people have good intentions but don’t always have the skills to respond or react in a given situation. An individual will often react the only way they know, anger, abuse, or withdrawal. I realized that I had played an equal part in my failed marriage. I promptly sat down and wrote my ex-husband a letter asking him to forgive me for any hurt and pain I had caused him during our marriage, and that I forgive him. I thanked him for our three beautiful children and lovely grandaughters that without him it would never have been possible to have this wonderful family. I wished him a happy and blest life. He never replied to my letter, which I expected. I sent each of my children a copy of the letter. They felt it was a courageous action. Replying to them I told them, the time is right, I have set myself free. I felt the 32 years of unforgiveness and deeply buried hurt and pain lift from every layer of my body and soul and gently float away into nothingness. Forgiveness was felt at a cellular level deep within my body my very DNA was singing, I feel twenty-five years young, unstoppable, energized and thrilled to be a certified Arfeen Khan Coach, Knowing I can help 1000’s of people transform their lives, experience true forgiveness and live lives filled with powerful possibilities beyond their dreams.
